Category: the Rant Board
It pisses me off when I hear about close friends getting abused. I want to go to the guy and choke the son of a bitch!
Yeah it sucks, but it's not always guys, my mom was really abusive, but i guess it wasn't really her fault, she was sick, or something Schitzophrhenia...But i've known girls and guys who got raped, beaten really badly and such, in Child protective services you see a lot of abused people. Some stories will make you sick...
all of those stories make me ill.
So, instread of being ill, lets learn how to spot some signs, who to report to, and how to confort those who have been abused. Just a suggestion.
Nem
Kevin, 100% agreed. And having watched both my mother, and one sister put up with abuse, both physical and mental, for years, ... well yeah, I completely undersatnd where you're coming from. A couple of things to think about though. 1, which has already mentioned, woudn't it be more benificial to those being abused to spot the signs, and report it? Secondly, How much those we dispise would it make us, to go around being violent to the violent? Is fighting fire with fire really the answer? I really don't have the answers, except to say, we all need to go about it in the right way, mayb, just maybe, something will be done about it.
yes, spot the signs. Something will be done if we just try to maintain.
Wanting to choke the bastard does not change what happened, and often garners no results accept feeding the anger which often lerks in predators such as this particular person!!!
Treat the abuser find out why they do it and help them cope with their feelings,then you will stop the abuse.
Stevie
That could take forever, speedy
Can't expect instent results.
That's true.
very very true
The problem is, in this day and age, there's no definite consequences for crimes such as this, as everyone's so sympathetic to the purpetrator, and not the victim.
that's true.
Probably going to be in the minority on this one, but I think "sickness" is often used as simply an excuse to do as one wishes. I'm all for strictor punishments that won't leave any doubt as to what will happen, and I think then we might have some luck...You know, like maybe burn the penus on a first rape offence? I'm not saying something to cause it not to function, but just as a good reminder on why they shouldn't be doing it.
Wow, well...urm. I don't think sickness is an "excuse"
Seems like a verry close minded view...me thinks...
Which part is narrow minded? The part where I'm all for stronger punishments? Just curious. *smile* If it's narrow minded; and maybe it is, maybe it's because I've been on the receiving end and still get sick to my stomach any time I think of it...My thoughts are this: if the rape victum has to live with it the rest of their lives; and we do no matter the counseling...why shouldn't the rapest? Also, if they only get a slap on the wrist; that's what I consider our treatment centers for offenders, what's going to stop them from doing that again. I admit that there are some people who have emotional/psychological problems, but in my opinion there are far more who don't, but use such excuses as their defence and get away with a treatment center and/or counseling, and sometimes they completely walk, left to simply do it again.
I say cut it off. Ok maybe not that extreme but something that will teach thema lesson.
do not think that rape and abuse only come from men. you are sorely mistaken
I don't think that these come from men, and I'm personally all for the same for women who do it. Burn it or something to remind them and then in the case of women sew it up so it can't be used; or if it's another body part they're offending with cut it off...I think both sexes deserve the same in this case; though I do believe that statistics show that men are more likely to do this type of thing. I have known of a girl personally who was big on molestation, and I know "why" she did it, but I don't see it as an excuse. No excuse is a good reason in my opinion.
I do not believe in statistics. There are many females that uses subtle techniques to get what they want. Abuse does not only have to be physical. More importantly, abuse is not restricted to a particular sex, race, etc. Abuse is abuse and it's wrong. Cut it off or clinically remove sexual capacity. Do whatever it takes.
and even though I've been through abuse, I don't think that it's an excuse to be abusive.
If you are being abused, walk out. Do not feel pity for the person. you have a duty and an obligation to look out for your own happiness and wellness.
Burn it, sew it shut...a bit much.
Amen to Jesse and Cattleya. There's way too much sympathy for the abuser these days, and too much crap for the victim. That's why abuse doesn't get reported so much of the time. The victim gets dragged through the mud as bad as, or worse then, the abuser. And it's very true that abusers are not always men. Women can be abusive, too.
As to your original post, Margorp, I entirely agree. I have several good friends that have been abused in a variety of ways. It boils my blood when I see the hurt that's been inflicted on them. I won't even go into the violent things I'd like to do to their abusers. But I try to deal with my anger in private, since showing it won't help them any. I just do my best to comfort my friends, or help them cope however I can. Then I go take out my anger and frustration on my own time. I think it's natural to feel anger when those you care about are hurt, and to want to punish the ones who did it. Just try not to let that get in the way of helping the victim.
yeah we should spend our energy supporting the victem.
The good news is, the person who inspired me to start this topic has a restraining order against her abuser.
Kill the fuckers male or female. My sister was sexually abused twice in 2 years at the ages of 10 and 11 the fucking bitch got away the second time because the courts had to review the case and before the case was set to happen he disappeared. The first time the person died of a heart attack before he was sentenced. Hmmm, maybe give the abuser to the family of the victim I'm sure they won't be very simpathetic although a lot of the times it is someone in the family.
sorry to hear she was so abused.